So today I was in a Titania EX party helping people get clears. I did pretty well until phase 3. Now full disclaimer; I really don't understand phase 3 very well. I only had 2 clears on this thing so did not have too much experience with the last part of it.
Well, some in the party started bitching about the consistent failing of the phase 3 mechanics and that the healer had NO idea what they were doing and was pretty incompetent. Now since I was one of the healers and I WAS messing up a bit, I thought they were talking about me and boy I was getting pissed!
I told myself, ok, ONE more try and if we don't clear this time, I am leaving these asses high and dry. Well Phase 3 came around, we messed up again but muddled through it enough to get the clear finally thanks to the tanks, a ninja, and myself who were still alive and able to whittle Titania down. FINALLY done, I got the HELL out of there as fast as possible as to NOT be around those people anymore!
Well, later after thinking about it for a bit, I soon realized my error. They were NOT talking about me, but the OTHER healer. You see, the healers are split east and west. They were complaining about the WEST healer and I was the EAST one!!!! :O
The confusion came because I normally play the west one, so I had it ingrained that they were trash talking me. BOY I felt DUMB when I realized that I got mad for NO reason at all!
Yeah, I did feel bad for the other guy though. I have been there, messing up all the time, so I know what it feels like. But man, if he was doing worse then me, he must have been doing REALLY bad! :O
Whoops! Yeah, I feel like lack of communication can lead to real sour moments. I, for the most part, always try to assess what the issue is and bring the peace flag just to make triple sure that the team is not having a bad time. If people attack that attitude or continue being toxic without care, then it's the time I feel it is best to leave the party as soon as possible to avoid escalation.
If I had a dime for every time that happened... I'd be able to treat myself to lunch, probably.
I usually feel guilty about being relieved when I realize whatever was said wasn't about me though. It's like... even if this time it wasn't about me, I might be the one who messes up another time, and when that happens I'd rather people be patient with me and help me do better yknow? If I feel brave enough I try to talk down whoever's bitching (big if, ya boi is not a huge fan of confrontation).