🌱Why do we have to “love ourselves first before we can love others?”
💖Because our hearts are the containers and the love we give to others… flows from this container If the container is full → we give with satisfaction If the container is empty → we give with fear, lack, and expectation
When people don't love themselves enough They expect others to fill the gaps in their hearts But when we love ourselves enough we love by sharing, not by begging for love
💖Because if we don't know how to love ourselves, we'll let people who treat us badly into our lives Or behave badly towards other people Or worse, we'll think that's love
If we love ourselves, we'll choose only people who love us and treat us well, just as we love and treat ourselves well, or even better
Because self-love means “knowing your own worth”
💖Because if we don't love ourselves enough, we love by “wanting,” not by “giving” People who don't love themselves enough often… Need validation from their loved ones Need constant attention Fear of abandonment, controlling them Giving ourselves completely to keep them from leaving
None of this is love
It's "fear disguised as love"
True love is freedom But love from fear is bondage
💖Because self-love creates "boundaries." If we don't love ourselves, we won't have boundaries. For example, allowing people to repeatedly hurt us, allowing people to be irresponsible, allowing people to use us, enduring a loveless relationship, or lowering ourselves to be with them.
But those who love themselves will be clear... ✨"I can give love, but I won't sacrifice myself for love"
This is the beauty of mature love
💖Because you can't give what you never have If you've never been kind to yourself, can you truly be kind to others? If you've never forgiven yourself, can you forgive others easily? If you've never loved yourself, how can you love others?
💖Because healthy love requires "two whole people," not one full and one deficient. A healthy relationship isn't like... "I'm lacking, please fill me up"
or "You're lacking, I'll fix your life"
But it's... ✨"I'm full, you're full, and let's share"✨
💖That's what a Healthy Relationship is
💖Ultimately... self-love is "responsibility for your own heart" Because no one—not even your lover—can bear the wounds of your heart for you
People who love themselves say "I'll take care of myself first, and then I'll love you with a healthy heart"
In short, Love yourself Share love Set boundaries Choose good love
🦋I think love is like a butterfly The more you chase it for its desire, the more it will fly away If you plant a flower garden and care for it properly, The butterfly will want to stay there Love to stay there and have happy live🌷
💖When we truly love someone We feel happy when we see the person we love happy They can becoming who they want to be (in a good way) There's no control, no boundary breaking
💖It's about loving yourself Developing yourself into a good lover And choosing good lovers
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